How to Save a Marriage The Proper Way

When you get married, there is this thinking that it would last forever, that it will always be a bed of roses, that he’s the prince and you’re the princess, that it’s like a fairy tale but in reality, almost 90% of marriage fails.  My friend Amy and her husband are in the verge of their marriage. They are not fighting, they still live under one roof, they don’t have affairs with other person but they both know that there is something wrong with their marriage and they wanted to fix it before it is too late. So I asked them what the reason is for this kind of problem.  As I hate seeing marriage falls apart, I search the internet and found out the book on how to save a marriage.

How to Save a Marriage
Reasons why marriage fails
•    Couples make the commitment too lightly.
•    Unrealistic expectation
•    Selfishness
•    Laziness
•    Bad Counsel

More reasons include
•    Lack of Communication, couples should never ever forget to talk to each other. Communication is very important in any relationship. They should tell what they feel, even if it is hard, that is the only way to have the problem be fixed so that it won’t happen again. Also it is a way where couples get to know their partner more.
I found this ebook online “How to save a Marriage” and I would like to just give you some tips on how to save a marriage.
•    Solve your disagreements. Whenever having disagreements. Never fix the problems the next day. Talk about it before ending the night. The longer the issue is not being solved and talked about, the more it would be difficult for you to talk about it in the future. Avoid relating his/her past mistakes to the present one, the argument will never come to an end.
•    Support your partner. Show your partner that you are always there for him/her no matter what. Show him/her that you are always willing to listen every time he/she needs someone to vent his/her problems.  Assure him/her that you will support him/her all the way.
•    Be realistic. Be realistic on your requests and demands. Do not ask for something that you know yourself that can never be meet. You must learn to keep each other’s demands realistic to avoid future disappointments.
•    Make a consistent effort to be positive and encouraging. Accept any criticism or request for a change in behavior between two compliments.
•    Work on keeping your heart open in love to your partner. It’s easy to close down emotionally when you’re angry or hurt. Visualize beams of love or golden light radiating out from your heart to your spouse’s heart. When you send the energy of judgment and criticism to another, the response will be very different than when you send the energy of unconditional love.
These simple steps can work like magic on how to save a marriage. Just always keep in mind that to avoid getting into divorce is by spending  and understanding your spouse , and having that level of trust where even if you’re not together, you know that both of you will be doing the right thing by your marriage.

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